Slaying The Success Syndrome
It's the "dragon" most all of us deal with in youth ministry - the success syndrome. We all know how it feels and the secret thoughts that pound in our minds. If we listen to its promptings, we never DO enough...we never GIVE enough...we never CARE enough in our youth ministry journey.
This Youth Leader's Coach, "Slaying The Success Syndrome," deals with all those issues. We take a look at what true biblical success IS and ISN'T. After all, it would be positive if we built our concept of success around our Maker's Handbook. Besides adding a lot of internal peace to your day, this mentoring session might even add years to your life - both physically and spiritually.
Yours for being a "Dragon Slayer,"
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You're not surprised by the topic of this Youth Leader's Coach are you? Boredom is a fact of life with anything you decide to do with consistency for the long haul.
Even Michael Jordan got bored, but instead of coasting he chose to get creative. He found new ways to do the basic drills to stay sharp when others found it easy to get lazy. He fought through the boredom and became a legend.
If we want to be more than good in youth ministry, but for the Lord's honor want to be great, we too must intentionally and strategically shake up our routines and take care of ourselves. So, grab a cup of coffee and let's wrestle through this thing...together!
Choosing to get creative,
When I started in youth ministry, I had about 20 kids in the youth group. My idea of success? A night together in youth service where Jesus showed up, kids laughed together and prayed together, and maybe even a new kid or so excitedly decided to give their life to Christ. I mean, back in 1970, that was my idea of a mind-blowing YOUTH MINISTRY SUCCESS.
It took only about three short months to start adding stuff to that original equation. Remember those 20 kids? Well, pretty soon, "real success" needed to include having about 30 kids show up! And somewhere through those opening, exciting months, something NEW to me was "born" in my life and head. It was small and almost a little "cuddly" at the beginning. Kind of like a friendly little "stuffed animal" from my past. But on closer examination, it wasn't that innocent and it sure wasn't that "cuddly." I had given birth to a small, not-too-scary-looking DRAGON.
So my prayerful goal for this message is to remind all of us that the "DRAGON OF SUCCESS" is maybe one of the most ferocious enemies ANY of us will ever face in our own minds...but we'll ALL face him...whether we're the "lead person" on the team, an amazing volunteer assistant, or just a career-orientated person who's just trying to get ahead on the job-site.
I'm LIVING, TRANSPARENT, VULNERABLE PROOF that THE DRAGON OF SUCCESS can hang around for a pretty long time. The point I'm trying to make is that probably all of us have VARIATIONS of this "Dragon" that Jesus and His love wants to slay – dragons that are fed by our insecurities, our fears, our needs for approval and acceptance.
Jesus regularly went to the synagogue. David prayed seven times a day, and Daniel three. Zacchaeus offered sacrifices "as was his custom." What are your daily success rituals? Do you have any? Have you thought about them lately?
Honestly, we really don't decide our future, but decide our habits. Our habits, in turn, are what determine our future. The statement is so true, "The secret of our future can be found in our daily routines."
With that in mind, our daily routines are far too important not to intentionally spend some time focusing in on them. So grab your coffee, have a seat in your favorite chair and listen in as we get strategic in creating our daily success rituals.
I love the Emerson quote, "The years will teach you what the days will never know." In this Youth Leader's Coach, I am going to take you on a journey with me through my years in ministry in an effort to stretch you and help you avoid potential pitfalls.
The journey God has you on is so worthwhile my friend. For every challenging moment I've encountered, I can't tell you how grateful I am that I didn't take the exits and detours that would have been so easy.
I want to be known, not as a person who is a great starter, but a great finisher. I want that for you as well.
In the trenches with you,
This second Youth Leader's Coach concludes my comments from Hans Finzel's great book, "The Top Ten Mistakes Leaders Make." The implications for youth ministry are great.
Highlights from our time together include "Dirty Delegation," "Communication Chaos" and "Missing the Clues of Corporate Culture." In short, Finzel's perceptions about primary leadership potholes are painfully accurate when applied to youth ministry. So grab a cup of coffee and enjoy our time together.
The war raging within you and me that, if we're not careful, can go unchecked is the war between power and true biblical authority. We are especially susceptible when we experience any measure of success. We can sometimes misinterpret that success as divine approval for all of our motives.
In this Youth Leader's Coach, we'll look at the fall of Saul, a king whose motives got all tangled up in his ego, insecurities and need for the approval of his people. We then turn to the life of Jesus to detangle the mess and show us how to conquer the battle within.
Fight the fight, serve the people and remain true to your Christ-honoring convictions and, little-by-little, your voice will echo in the lives of those you lead.
Finances can be challenging for anyone, especially for those in full-time ministry. In this session, Bill Youngblood, Jeanne and Sam's own financial adviser, gives tips on how to manage your money. He shares the best investments, how to plan for retirement and ways to obtain free money.
Bill Youngblood is a recognized leader by the financial planning community, both locally and nationally. Having served the financial planning profession since 1966, he and his company have helped numerous individuals and businesses achieve wealth and security. He serves as advisor to church retirement plans and employee benefit programs.
It's football season, so I couldn't resist the opportunity to do a teaching entitled, "Vince Lombardi On Youth Ministry." Lombardi was obviously the esteemed historical coach of the Green Bay Packers. He was a legend in his football leadership.
As I've studied his leadership, many of his primary principles are really applicable to building effective youth ministry teams. So whether you're a football fan or not, I think you'll enjoy our mentoring time together.
Lombardi would remind us that, "The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather, A LACK OF WILL."
Excitedly "WILLING" to serve you,
I suppose nothing challenges most of us in youth ministry more than trying to make enough time each day to get everything done that seems to demand our attention. Over the years in youth ministry, I've made it a habit to occasionally re-evaluate my own time management in light of my personal dreams and goals.
In this Youth Leader's Coach, I share with you the eight key questions I ask myself periodically to "keep myself on track." Peter Drucker says, "Efficiency is doing things right, but effectiveness is doing right things." So grab a cup of coffee, consider transcribing my eight questions, and then spend some time evaluating your time management in light of these thoughts. I promise the results will be both challenging and rewarding.
Yours for being EFFECTIVE in Youth Ministry,
Have you ever met those youth pastors that seem to turn everything they touch into "gold"? While we know that life isn't perfect for them, no matter what they do, they always seem to win. Even though we may never admit it, often we feel very frustrated watching others always "get it right."
In this Youth Leader's Coach, I take a look at the "winning secrets of champions" by reviewing some of the greats of the athletic world. Standouts such as Tiger Woods, Joe Montana, Wayne Gretzky, Michael Jordan and others are not just "great" in their fields, but truly seem to "always win." The same principles that made them amazing also apply to our "playing field" of youth ministry. Take this hour, listen, and realize that it isn't just what happens "in the ring" of our Wednesday Night service but "outside of the ring," in our everyday life, that determines a "champion." May this hour between us be one that would make you into a youth leader that "runs up the scoreboard" everyday!
Honored to have you in my life,