This Youth Leader's Coach is such a crucial topic for each of us. I'm talking about "Spiritual Burnout." This is so much more than the classic physical burnout, even though there are many ties and connections between the two. But I could call this subject "when doing all you can, doesn't seem to be enough."
Wow, we all find ourselves there from time to time. Let me share with you some of the invaluable keys I have learned from many years in youth ministry to pull myself out of spiritual burnout and continue the course. I would have given anything to have been told these things years ago! So make this one part of your permanent collection and pull it out again and again.
Still lovingly in your corner,
In this Youth Leader's Coach, "Building Something That Will Last," we discuss what it takes to build a ministry that not only leaves an imprint on the hearts and lives of students, but lasts long after you've left.
How do you do it? For the most part, it boils down to intentional decision-making in a number of key areas in your ministry and personal life. While some of the choices can seem difficult in the moment, they are the very things that will catapult you and your ministry into the future. So join me for a cup of coffee and let's chat on what it takes to build something that lasts. My heart's desire is for you to be in the youth ministry trench beside me for years to come.
Have you ever wanted something so badly, you moved forward without regard to what happens ...only later to realize the cost of manufacturing your own plan, instead of waiting on God's plan, proved to be extremely costly?
While waiting can seem painful and difficult, it doesn't have to be. In this Youth Leader's Coach, we'll look at the nation of Israel, as well as a number of biblical heroes, for wisdom on what to do and NOT to do while we're waiting.
Instead of getting caught up in the "I'll be happy when..." destination game, let's discover the joy in the journey...together!
One of the frequent questions I'm asked in youth ministry is "How do you know when to quit?" When is it time to throw in the towel on a program, an event, a church, a youth ministry...? It's not a question easily answered. However, in this Youth Leader's Coach, we gain wisdom and insight from Seth Godin's book "The Dip." In it we find numerous transferable principles for those of us living in the youth ministry trenches.
Thanks for joining me on the journey. I so appreciate you!
This Youth Leader's Coach is a very unique discussion. I am calling it "The Shadow Side Of Youth Ministry."
Statistics tell us that 1200 ministers leave full time ministry every single month! There are a million reasons for that, but a huge answer is found in this issue of us having a "shadow side" that if not recognized can get the best of us, pretty much taking us out of the game. Because this is so key, let us honestly reflect on the paradox of personal pain and how it relates to our walk with Christ and our leadership style in youth ministry. And then let's look at several of the most common "shadow sides" and the telltale signs to watch out for in your own heart and ministry. If not recognized they can become areas that will destroy you if you let them get bigger and bigger.
Growing through my "shadow side,"
According to surveys done by the Fuller Institute of Church Growth, 70% of pastors have no one they consider to be a close friend and 50% have considered leaving the ministry in the last 3 months. Those are staggering statistics and I suspect that the numbers aren't too different for youth pastors and leaders.
This Youth Leader's Coach, "Coping With Stress and Burnout In Youth Ministry," is probably destined to be one of your favorites. I share candidly with you on stress and burnout. After 35 years in fulltime youth ministry, I've obviously experienced my share of both of these. So I wanted to share with you some of the pragmatic and medical things I have learned through the journey that can help you in these crucial areas.
Most of all, I wanted you to realize that when you feel pretty seriously stressed and even burned out, you are understood and not crazy! It's my honor to send this Youth Leader's Coach your way. Keep it filed somewhere so you can pull it out occasionally. It probably will be worth listening to more than once.
Lovingly Your Sis,
"Worn Out And Empty"...that's a pretty unusual title for one of our youth ministry mentoring times together, isn't it? Yet those four words are realities all of us can relate to all too well at different times in our ministries.
As I share my heart with you on the subject, I hope you will be able to receive this Youth Leader's Coach as a love-gift from Jesus' heart to yours. We all deal with times when the repetition and demands of youth ministry leave us "worn out and empty." We all occasionally struggle to find the emotional energy necessary to keep going...in our ministries, our jobs, our families and sometimes even in our personal walks with Christ.
So prayerfully, our time together will really speak to you. If not, may I make a suggestion? Just consider keeping this somewhere within easy reach. Because all too soon, you'll find the ebb and flow of youth ministry (and life) will leave you saying to yourself, "Where did I put that Youth Leader's Coach?"
So often when we mess up in our Christian walk, the mind games immediately begin to tell us it's not worth trying to get back on track again. After all, we'll just keep messing up! I spoke about this inner battle with my own gang, Oxygen, in this Source called "The Call Is Higher Than The Fall."
You'll want to listen in as I speak vulnerably with them about finding hope in the moments of weakness. Realizing that we all have a call and destiny on our lives that is so much more important than the current failure we find ourselves in, is the catalyst to get back up and go at this again. This is definitely one you will cherish for yourself and for your students!
Because of the Call,
Without fail, about the time we've been in youth ministry long enough to have a little perspective...a little seasoning...a little depth, we begin to feel a little disconnected to the youth culture. Like clockwork, the mind games kick in that leave us wondering whether we're "too old," "too uncool" or "too out of touch" for youth ministry. In all reality, nothing could be further from the truth!
We can't, however, just ignore the culture. There are some right choices we can make along the way that will increase our effectiveness and ability to stay connected with today's youth. So join me as I give 10 simple suggestions in this issue of Youth Leader's Coach that will help in "Keeping Yourself Relevant For The Long-Haul."
In this General Session Jeanne and Rodney "Darkchild" Jerkins share "What MTV And Hollywood Teach Us About Youth Ministry." They help us understand "The Silent Years." Rodney shares how being faithful and persistent in the "Silent Years," contributed to his success. Jeanne shares her heart about the real benefits of staying in ministry and not giving up in the "Silent Years." She challenges us to do ministry for God first, then the students, because the church doesn't reward the "Silent Years."
Listen as Jeanne shares her definition of success and how it has changed over the years.
While I don't need encouraged to take a vacation, Charles Spurgeon's quote, "when fatigue walks in, faith walks out," reminds me of the importance of one. Trying to juggle the demands of ministry can be grueling. Though I consider myself pretty tough, on occasion even I question the sustainability of it all. That's why, once a year, I hit the pause button and head to Cancun.
It's the time of year when I stop long enough to get a clearer aerial view of exactly how "on course" or "off course" I am when it comes to running my ministry race well. This year was no exception. In this Youth Leader's Coach, you'll hear some of the course corrections Jesus is calling me, and maybe even you, to make. I'm determined to cross the finish line both healthy and whole. Won't you join me?!
Refusing to stop short,