A Leader's Guide To Overcoming Guilt
Some pains and hurts from our past don't keep bothering us. We seek God's forgiveness, then forgive and forget. OTHER MEMORIES keep haunting for a long time with stingers of guilt, regret and resentment. But, by God's grace, total and unconditional forgiveness to YOURSELF and others stand available to every child of God.
Dr. James Dobson says that overcoming guilt, even after repentance, is one of the primary weapons the Enemy uses on today's leadership culture. That's why I wanted to share with you this resource. I call this Youth Leader's Coach, "A Leader’s Guide To Overcoming Guilt." Prayerfully, this will be a resource that will be a game-changer for you!
No you didn't read the title wrong; this Source is called "How To Let Anger Ruin Your Life." Anger has a negative connotation, but in all honesty it is second cousin to all of us. We all deal with it in different ways; however, we all know how it feels to get ticked. This is the back door approach to a topic we all can relate to. While not all anger is bad, misdirected anger can ruin your life. The message is tongue-cheek and is kind of a "how-to" in reverse.
As we all know, our students have the loudest voice to their generation. This four part drama gives students the platform to be that voice on this sensitive topic. Sad truth is, when we can do less talking and let the students do more, even if it is through drama or monologues, the evening winds up being invariably our finest.
Not letting anger ruin my own life,
What's the secret to a happy life? So many people think it rests in money, power and fame, but they couldn't be further from the truth! Most will find, after they've spent some time barking up the wrong tree, that true happiness begins by choosing the direction of your thought life. Sounds too simple, doesn't it?
Unfortunately, all too often we've allowed negative comments people have made or our previous mistakes to keep us tied to the past. It prevents us from enjoying today and pursuing all that God has for us tomorrow. How do you overcome the comments and mistakes? In this Source, "The Pursuit Of Happiness," we will draw upon some of the expertise of Tommy Newberry in his book "The 4:8 Principle." In addition to his great book, we'll use circus elephants, a pear tree, a Billy Graham quote and dollar bills to get the point across that "whatever we focus on, we fuel!"
So, grab a cup of coffee and join me. This message is not just for your kids, but for you too.
Mitch Soule is not a youth pastor, but a successful businessman. He is the owner and founder of RAD Game Tools. At one time, Mitch was unhappy in his work and thought about selling his business and going into ministry. Then he realized that God had called him into the business world and he learned to find joy in the work that God had created him for. Mitch lives his life by "7 Decrees from the King" and in this session he shares those decrees which help him live the joyful life the Lord intended.
About 5 years into full-time youth ministry, I remember saying, "I think EVERYBODY deals with insecurity!" Now, more than 35 years later, I am even more convinced of that fact. Insecurity is a controlling factor that the teenagers in your youth church deal with almost every hour of their lives. Often, it stays masked behind facades of pride, sarcasm, or quietness. But I promise you that insecurity is one of the most dominant emotions most of today's youth culture is impacted by.
Years ago, I heard someone say that "Whoever we most fear...we will eventually serve." Isn't that true? Proverbs 29:25 says it a little differently. It reads, "The fear of man creates a trap." Right again, King Solomon! So enjoy this Source, "The Curse Of Insecurity," and know that it is powerfully relevant to about every teenager (and youth minister) you know. Who knows? You might even hear something in the message for yourself!
The diagnosis is in and I've got a dreaded disease! In fact, it's a disease I've been battling for quite awhile. I wouldn't be surprised if you have it too! It's certainly not as serious as cancer or leukemia, but damaging nonetheless. It goes by the name of "The Disease To Please."
This serious emotional disease can become both consuming and crippling if we are forever striving to "be liked" and "approved of." For when our people-pleasing side gets too big in our lives, our God-pleasing side invariably gets too little.
The good news is that it's curable and, for the most part, all starts and stops in our head. So grab a cup of coffee and listen in on the causes, effects and ways to conquer this debilitating disease and frequent root of ministry burnout.
Gaining ground little by little,
With this edition of the Source, "Christ's Answer To The Fear Factor," we give you a "can't miss" event. This is an outreach-based message that we did for two weeks. While this Source isn't long enough to include the audio from both nights, we've given you both sets of notes to use. We've also loaded up this Source with all the games, tech notes, and more to execute this event flawlessly. So take what you want, adapt it for your gang, and if you only do it for one week or stretch it longer than two, I know this will be a hit with your team!
On a personal note, this message deals with two of the biggest fears that people in our society struggle with: "the fear of rejection" and "the fear of insignificance." Our own students and ourselves, if we're honest, fight these fears daily. As you listen, you'll hear me often speak of my own battle with these fears. Remember, "you will lead people with your strengths, but you will connect to people with your weaknesses."
So sit back, relax, and give me a few minutes to be you "long distance cheerleader."
Lovingly your "Big Sis,"
Whatever your personal views of Joel Osteen, only a short-sighted person would fail to acknowledge his huge spiritual impact. However, many of us don't find ourselves as "hard-wired" for happiness as he seems to be. In fact, many conscientious youth leaders have a secret, internal nagging-something like "Is this how abundant life in Jesus is supposed to FEEL?" We're busy trying to lead others towards authentic fulfillment and happiness. Yet in private moments, we sometimes are a little disillusioned ourselves.
Pulling from Harvard's Dr. Tal Ben-Shahar's book, Happier, in this Youth Leader's Coach I explore the "question of questions" ...How can we help ourselves and others to become happier? So make the journey with me as I cover this rare topic in the context of biblical principles.
All my gratitude,
An addiction by definition is the state of being enslaved to a habit or practice, or to something that is psychologically or physically habit forming. Something that controls people.In this session, Robert Madu confesses his addiction. It's one that many people share. It's the addiction of "approval." Robert shares three symptoms of "Approval-aholics" and finally hope for all of us who suffer from the addictions that hold us back on the road to God's destiny and purpose for our lives.
Insecurity is like climbing invisible ladders trying to reach invisible goals to make us feel higher, bigger, and above all the other people around us. Whether we're leaning on a "shifting" foundation, playing the "comparison game," we lose track of our real "value," or get caught up in the "longing for belonging" trap, insecurity is something that we ALL deal with in one way or another.
This Source is Part 1 of a 2-part series we did called, "The Lamp: Illuminating The Raw Feelings Of Your Life." With a fun skit, some key Scriptures and a thought-provoking poem, I helped our students see that they can deal with their "IN Security" by flipping the words around and finding their "Security IN" Jesus! You'll find the video "bumper" and "countdown" for the series on Vimeo. We've also included the message notes for the second message of the series for you!
Coming Off My Ladder
Welcome to God's "Hall of Fame"! We can all feel like a loser more often than we care to admit. There's not one of us that doesn't go through seasons when we feel like our heads are getting kicked in. Whether it's because of fatigue, mind games, doubts, sin, or personal pain, I just wanted to remind you that this is completely normal.
In this month's Youth Leader's Coach, "When You Feel Like A Loser," I'm unpacking some of the ways we can combat seasons of discouragement. I just want you to hear my heart say to you, that when you feel like a loser, you're not alone.